Dearly cherished, we’re collected here today to complete this thing also known as… a season finale! Yes, it really is true, this event signifies the conclusion the absolute smash hit which was S2 of

Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?

And also to commemorate that ending, exactly who easier to come-on and talk about the joys and positive results of a long length crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You could identify Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer Christmas rom-com that come on this past year,

Under The Christmas Tree
,

but around these areas, she’s another concept this is certainly nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girl! Yes, you got that right, this sparkling twosome ended up being birthed from fantastic queer tradition: the cross country crush.

Exactly what could it possibly be concerning the long-distance crush that’s very attracting queers around the globe? Could it be the relative scarceness of like-minded queers near you? Perhaps the power to flirt long-distance takes many of the pressure down? The three of us enter all of it, AND Drew and Elise show some potentially TOO pretty information about their unique union!

And undoubtedly you will find a game title! This week, we make Drew have fun with the online game that simply took over Twitter and Tiktok for several fleeting days: “they are a 10 but…” It is a great time, all-around!

SHOW RECORDS

+ Practice Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!

+
Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!

+ Enjoy

Bend it Like Beckham
,

it nevertheless rocks!

+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs are… certainly quite persuasive!

+ will likely Shortz is in fact title regarding the NYT Crossword Editor!

*the a lot more you know*

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EPISODE

Elise

: after which we had gotten from the phone, and the two of us hopped on phone two seconds later we are like, “therefore the edge is closed, our company is legitimately prohibited to truly go throughout the border.”

Christina

: What i’m saying is, top among certainly my favorite vocals memos and or texts I got from Drew, i can not recall which kind it was available in, it had been like, “we made this course of action and from now on the boundaries tend to be closed.” Yeah.

Elise

: Yeah, it absolutely was a proper minute.

[theme song plays]

Drew

: Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina

: And I’m Christina.

Drew

: And introducing

Wait, So Is This A Date?

Christina

:

Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?

is actually an Autostraddle podcast delivered by myself obtaining the giggles, together with concern this is certainly on everybody’s lip area, hold off, had been this a night out together?

Drew

: We’re after all of our 2nd period, and I also believe we resolved it, I think.

Christina

: Yeah, i believe I’m only providing huge finale electricity, like when comedies was once before a studio market, and everybody would walk in so there ended up being an hour of applause as it had been like, this is the last, that is the way I’m experiencing. Though becoming clear, no body has actually applauded myself yet, hateful. Thank-you, thanks a lot. Now I believe liked and held. Drew, that happen to be you?

Drew

: Oh wow, forgot about this part.

Christina

: Yeah, right?

Drew:

Possibly period three I’ll get the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, Im an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Do you know what, In my opinion if we carry out another period i wish to have a great one I throw in towards the end.

Christina

: Ooh, some thing spicy, you should jazz it up?

Drew

: Yeah, There isn’t everything today however.

Christina

: Okay, leave all of them wishing even more, i believe that is fantastic.

Drew

: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Christina

: Im Christina Tucker, i’m in addition an author at Autostraddle, while the net at large. A podcaster, a help gay black lady, and a person who’s experience quite flashy here about this afternoon.

Drew

: Great, i am really glad you are flashy and I also’m spicy, or perhaps I’m planning the possibility that at some point i’m going to be spicy.

Christina

: Yes you are like, I don’t know, the very first 50 % of the movie Dune, the spice comes. Cool guide, females, she actually is solitary. Anyway, i actually do have a-game for people playing about this hollowed day’s our very own finale.

Drew

: Incredible.

Christina

: This Is Basically The classic, and also by traditional After All a game title that annexed the net and TikTok for a couple weeks, “They’re a 10, but…”

Drew

: Ah, great.

Christina

: today Drew, i’ll set out some soil guidelines obtainable, because i am aware you adore a followup question.

Drew

: Great.

Christina

: once I state they may be a 10, they can be a 10 for your requirements by any means that counts to you personally, that may be physically, that might be mentally, this is just one you are feeling is actually a 10, okay?

Drew

: Okay, ok, thank you so much.

Christina

: i actually do have no circumstances for just what more you in this person have been doing in your internet dating life, you’re just planning to have to go together with your instinct and determine.

Drew

: Cool.

Christina

: fine?

Drew

: Yes.

Christina

: We’re going to place in which make that obvious, right here we get. They may be a 10, however they clap whenever plane places.

Drew

: i decided everyone was as well remarkable with this specific, in which its like they may be a 10 hence thing means they are go to a two, seriously.

Christina

: Yes.

Drew

: So I’m likely to nonetheless give a fairly generous eight.

Christina

: Yeah, i do believe that is fair. I believe eight is the proper amount of cringe treatment for the small motion. All right, this might be the start. Okay, they’re a nine nonetheless never text you initially.

Drew

: And I can’t ask follow up concerns?

Christina

: No, no, no.

Drew

: therefore i cannot ask, really perform they text me when I text? I’d say a five.

Christina

: Yeah, not texting very first ever before, which is rough.

Drew

: ever before is actually strange.

Christina

: that is rough stuff. Okay, they have been a five nonetheless drive that every errand that you’ve ever endured to perform.

Drew

: that is great, but i possibly could usually… If there were five, we’ll offer him a six.

Christina

: Sure, sure. But i am aware you like a solamente jaunt anyway, you like an errand run.

Drew

:I mean nowadays my personal gf Elise performed drive us to an errand, and I ended up being really grateful, however if which was the thing she did we mightn’t be in a commitment, that has been only an additional bit good bonus.

Christina

: I think that’s fair.

Drew

: Yeah.

Christina

: okay, they are a seven nonetheless they only pretend to learn your work.

Drew

: understand facet of that that bothers me personally could be the pretend.

Christina

: Pretending, we realized it might be.

Drew

: It isn’t really the perhaps not checking out it. If they didn’t review might work its like, I am not that, I would be just a little, it is like never ever? But it’s fine, i possibly could overcome it. Even so they lay to me about this is exactly what’s odd for me, in order that’s going to go-down to a three.

Christina

: Yeah, correct, appropriate. They might be a three nevertheless they gain access to the criterion wardrobe.

Drew

: And carry out I get you to get?

Christina

: and also you have access, you take advantage of that accessibility, yes.

Drew

: I could have a good affair thereupon six.

Christina

: In my opinion you could potentially. It was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it to a six.

Drew

: No, no, no, that is what I’m stating, I’m slamming it to a six.

Christina

: Gotcha, gotcha. I really like that. They are an eight but their pals are straight.

Drew

: Okay, there is some discussion about any of it, because i do believe there clearly was a needed help. I do believe I possibly had been about opposite area of many for the Autostraddle staff whom said that it is fine to only have right buddies. I would like to say that it’s okay, it is simply maybe not the life span We lead. All right friends, that will visit a-two.

Christina

: Yeah, i will must agree with you on that one, i might merely find it only a little troubling, confusing.

Drew

: All right friends?

Christina

: Yeah.

Drew

: If they’re a new comer to queerness and they are wanting to meet even more queer people, that is unique of if they are an established season queer that is want, you-know-what? I really like getting usually the one lesbian within my pal band of directly folks.

Christina

: Yeah, i might have the same manner if it was a dark individual who had been like, “I don’t have any Ebony friends,” i might wind up as, “what’s happening there?” Internally.

Drew

: We’re not in a network sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.

Christina

: you don’t have to become token, you should not do that to your self. Okay, we’ve three a lot more. These are generally a seven nonetheless spend-all their particular sparetime in the gym, constantly strength training top to bottom. I am not sure what people perform at the gym.

Drew

: their spare time. I suppose it all depends about what matters as time. I’ll say a five.

Christina

: Yeah.

Drew

: we’ll bump them straight down two.

Christina

: Bump all of them down.

Drew

: But that’s good. I guess this will depend mostly for my situation, that I’m not inquiring a take question, i am sticking with five, nonetheless it depends in my experience what counts as time.

Christina

: Certain.

Drew

: are we able to see films collectively, or go out for eating, would be that spare time? Is certainly not work time leisure time, or is it like as soon as we lack alternative activities?

Christina

: I hear you, I listen to you.

Drew

: But we’ll stay with five.

Christina

: All right. They truly are six, however their mother is hotter than they have been.

Drew

: Oh, I don’t know to move up or down.

Christina

: I’m sure, correct?

Drew

: I really don’t imagine I could ever date some one for their… It’s like if I’m not interested in someone to start with, I’m perhaps not probably going to be online dating them.

Christina

: Correct.

Drew

: I am not gonna be want, well, they are able to change into their own hot mother. I believe I’d declare that they are nonetheless a six, i am only probably perhaps not refer to them as and I’m probably call their own mommy.

Christina

: Yeah, i’m enjoy it’s like you remain exactly the same, but maybe we go out to you somewhat more than I would necessary-

Drew

: which is an excellent point.

Christina

: getting some mother time. I don’t consider you change.

Drew

: used to do anything actually bad that I nevertheless think defectively about, which can be that someone asked me on, this was actually whenever I was in college, and I also wasn’t curious, therefore I ended up being obvious about that, I became obvious I wasn’t curious. But she planned to be buddies, and that I could tell that she stated she planned to be buddies however it ended up being originating from location-

Christina

: She ended up being wanting.

Drew

: Yeah. Nevertheless the thing is that every one of the woman pals had been truly hot and cool, therefore I performed always been her pal to spend time with her pals. I didn’t lay about my personal objectives typically, but it still was not the best thing Used to do as a 20 year old.

Christina

: after all unfortunately it just reminds myself of that episode of

Gender and also the City

in which Carrie’s relationship, It’s my opinion its Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but their family stones, and she’s like, i will do that for quite. I’m like, yeah, definitely, whom couldn’t.

Drew

: Carrie wasn’t trying to hook up together with family members, which is the huge difference, you understand what? It’s fine, we are all good.

Christina

: A hookup will appear like such a thing, i am constantly saying that.

Drew

: which is an extremely great point.

Christina

: Your final one, is a three but provides a beach house.

Drew

: I’m planning to say a frustrating phrase, but we went to NYU.

Christina

: Horrible to state.

Drew

: something sucks about me, which this can be probably appear to be a humble boast, because it’s actually probably a figure trait, but it sucks as people checking out the globe. We decided to go to a college that’s filled up with wealthy people who have a variety of awesome beach residences, as well as these other activities, and I just turned into friends with others who had been truth be told there on scholarships. Besides, but primarily, I absolutely, I didn’t socialize with folks who had beach residences.

Christina

: You didn’t utilize.

Drew

: Yeah, therefore I believe if they’re a three however they have actually a coastline household, they can be most likely a two. The fact… I’m not sure.

Christina

: Yeah, you just cannot make that leap to utilize the unwell beach house second.

Drew

: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m truly wanting usually my pals who will be fairly down to earth, great folks, increasingly more of them are simply just likely to continue to get that brand new money and then get coastline homes, following I’ll be able to go out with my fantastic buddies and become at a beach residence. This is the dream where i really could have the coastline house.

Christina

: this is the fantasy after the afternoon, it’s new money and a coastline home, that’s all we are in search of. You heard it here very first people.

Drew

: i really like brand-new cash.

Christina

: Love brand-new cash.

Drew

: Love new money. Yeah, which was a delight. I’d really, I’d truly already been attempting to perform that online game since it was actually a thing on TikTok, very thank-you for making my personal dreams be realized.

Christina

: I was thinking it will be a great a person to perform, therefore was actually extremely enjoyable to come up with them.

Drew

: Well, should we move on to the primary sector from the few days, and is falling for people who inhabit various other metropolitan areas. And is diverse from cross country connections, because cross country connections may start well into an union, they’re able to carry on into a connection, here is the need that queer individuals have to look at their place that they stay and get, no, I’m not going to flirt with your folks, i’ll continue instagram.com and locate a person that resides really a distance. And we also have actually a, I’m sure we usually state a really unique visitor, however for me personally this might be an extremely unique visitor. Would you like to present yourself?

Elise

: i’d like to introduce myself personally. Have always been I the special visitor?

Drew

: you may be, yes.

Christina

: kid, needless to say.

Elise

: Great, wow, amazing. I’m called Elise Bauman, i am an actor, I’m a queer individual, and I’m right here today because I’m sleeping with one of many hosts.

Christina

: imagine which?

Elise

: Yeah, the remainder podcast is only the audience trying decipher which variety i am resting with. I prefer that, it really is like a murder puzzle but-

Christina

: there is no solution to know.

Elise

: there’s really no strategy to know. Yeah, performs this create me personally a nepotism child? Would be that how the business works.

Christina

: Yes, which is how the business really works, hottie.

Elise

: cool, good.

Christina

: this is certainly it.

Elise

: Wow, maybe i possibly could get a profession from this.

Christina

: Fingers entered for your needs.

Elise

: Nepo child to position, wow, great. I usually wished to end up being a nepo baby.

Christina

: i am very glad.

Drew

: Yeah, I was simply browsing say that for people who do not know, really I am just ruining the murder mystery of it all, but Elise and I also can be found in a commitment, and did begin relationship throughout pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and that I live in Los Angeles, which are actually various locations, and are usually in fact in numerous nations.

Elise

: These include without a doubt, they’ve been undoubtedly.

Christina

: And Drew, not saying you went against yours instinct, but i actually do feel as though you might be normally a person who says, the reason why make use of an extended length moment? Discover men and women below i will date, exactly why do this to your self? You are aware it will be difficult, you understand it will be challenging, so why do this? But right here you are.

Drew

: See, that is interesting, because I feel like I always enjoyed for a small amount of both, i simply think I didn’t take the long distance people perhaps as severely.

Christina

: Maybe that’s it, yeah.

Drew

: But I always liked a long distance flirt.

Christina

: Genuine.

Drew

: i really believe this just stored heading. When we started-

Elise

: therefore the response, Drew, wasn’t that I happened to be simply irresistible plus it was private in my experience, and that it had been really specific to me that I happened to be only incredibly attractive which means you just broke all of your policies and also you mentioned, “i need to have that one.”

Drew

: What i’m saying is it is type of the solution in an extended feeling. In the same manner which merely kept occurring. After which all of our good friends associated with pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who we used to live with, as some people may know, I would personally be like, I’d be attempting to date men and women throughout pandemic in la and also the surrounding areas of L. A.. After which they’d create enjoyable of myself because I would personally often just be like, “after all, I could only make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I was usually, “i am talking about, {this person|this i